Finishing sex prematurely is the number one issue in everyday sex lives. It can seem like an issue that’s impossible to overcome, and can ultimately affect you mentally so that sex renders itself unpleasurable due to worry. This can put a strain on a relationship, especially when there’s a lack of communication.
Fortunately, there are plenty of proactive ways to improve our sex lives. This applies to both men and women, though a couple of the points below will cater specifically to men.
Concentrate on your partner
Taking the focus away from yourself and onto your partner is perhaps the single best advice there is – whether or not finishing prematurely is an issue. Becoming paranoid about finishing too early can lead to only thinking about yourself, which renders your sex selfish.
This is particularly important for those that have psychological issues around sex. Even if anxiety or guilt, for example, isn’t your fault, it can cause you to become too self-centered. This can actually become counter productive when there’s an issue of finishing prematurely.
Sex is supposed to be selfless as much as it is selfish, and taking the focus off yourself can physically help last longer as you’re focused on pleasing your partner.
Practice makes perfect
There are some tools and exercises that can help answer the question of how to last longer during sex. The Myhixel TR tool for example is a fleshlight for men, in which it runs the user through various games and exercises. Over time, it gives the man have more control over his body, and can lead to longer sex.
If a tool isn’t on the radar, then the practice of sex itself is another great way to gain more control. As you become more experienced, you’ll know what works and what doesn’t. And if you’re having multiple sessions within a week or even a day, that alone will make you last longer.
Change positions
Some positions feel better than others, and some may help you last longer. Experiment with which ones work for you both, and you may find yourself surprised. Plus, the act of changing position during intercourse can actually set you back some time as you interrupt the flow.
This also gives an opportunity to use the pause-squeeze method of gently squeezing the tip of the penis to further disrupt a premature ejaculation.
Pelvic floor exercise
Kegels, which is a term many will be familiar with, has various benefits. It’s an exercise that strengthens the pelvic floor and it can improve a female’s chances of orgasm, improve the sensation, and treat premature ejaculation.
When you practice them, make sure your bladder is empty, and you tighten the pelvic floor muscles for around 5 seconds, then relax, then repeat 10 times, 3 times per day.
Condoms
In an endeavour to avoid the medication route (if possible), condoms are a great, safe way to last longer. This is particularly effective for those that are prematurely finishing due to hypersensitivity, as the condom can reduce the intensity of the sensation. In particular, it may be uncircumcised men who suffer from such hypersensitivity.