Have you heard the latest divorce rumors?
There’s been a lot of gossip and hearsay in the divorce industry lately. Let’s debunk the most common myths that exist about the divorce process.
You deserve to know what is true and what isn’t when it comes to your divorce, so let’s get started.
Here are some of the biggest misconceptions about getting divorced… and why they’re not actually true.
1. Having an Uncontested Divorce is Easier Than Getting a Contested One
No way! It takes just as much work to get divorced without a spouse fighting over every little thing as it does with fighting over everything. Plus, if you have children, there are special considerations that need to be taken into account when you go for an uncontested divorce.
Uncontested divorces generally come up when couples follow predesigned conditions (such as splitting assets 50/50, having no kids, or not enough money-making child support an issue) so they can agree on absolutely everything instead of going to court.
Most people think that it’s easy and painless, but the truth is they still need to come up with a settlement and file for divorce.
They need to get their financial information together, get their tax returns, learn the rules of property division in their state…they have to do everything that contested divorcees have to do except fight in court.
2. People Who Want Divorces Are Vindictive Jerks
False! The reason why people decide to go through with a divorce is often very mundane–it’s not always because the partner did something wrong, it wasn’t a faithful marriage or hurt them on purpose. Sometimes, it’s just because they want to pursue an opportunity that will help them advance their career and change their financial status.
If a wife decides to leave her husband because she has the chance to go back to school for a better job or if a husband leaves his wife so he can travel more freely with his buddies–that is not vindictive behavior, it’s freeing yourself from chains that are keeping you from being who you really want to be.
3. A Contested Divorce is as Bad as Getting Served With Divorce Papers by your Spouse
False! In today’s society, most people end up filing for divorce themselves without giving anyone any warning signs that they were about to do it. You don’t have to be served divorce papers by your spouse to be considered a contested divorce.
However, there is such thing as getting served with divorce papers.
If your spouse actually manages to file the paperwork and you get served months later it might not come as a complete surprise because you should have already seen signs that they were about to do it (for example if they started hiding their phone bills or started spending more and more time at work).
But even so, you can still contest the divorce and fight for what’s yours. You can find out more about foreign divorce process here.
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As we’ve seen, divorce is a sensitive and complicated process that will take time. It’s important to remember this as you navigate the emotional roller coaster of getting divorced.
We hope these myths have helped clear up some misconceptions about what it takes to get divorced. If you’d like to learn more, please visit our blog!