The pandemic has put a lot of strain on most people. However, some have had to deal with severe loss on top of all the stress and uncertainty of current times. People have lost their jobs, businesses, and homes. One of the most common losses during this pandemic has been the loss of loved ones. Unfortunately, the process of dealing with it looks quite different during a pandemic, as opposed to other times. Whether youve lost a loved one due to Covid-19 or another reason, you may be struggling to deal with it in a healthy way due to the state of things. While loss and grief are never easy, well be discussing a few things that you can still do, even in the midst of a pandemic.
Have a memorial
Of course, there are still restrictions on social gatherings in most areas of the world. However, that doesnt mean you cant still pay your respects or say goodbye to your loved ones. You may be able to have an intimate gathering with close friends and family, depending on restrictions in your area. Alternatively, you may be able to arrange a memorial via video call. There are ways of planning a safe memorial during the pandemic, so if at all possible, you should do it. Its important to say goodbye.
Talk to someone
Its the oldest clich in the book, but theres a reason its stuck around so long. No mater how strong you are, you cant go through tough times alone. You need a support system. Its important to get your feelings out and have someone be there for you. If necessary, you may even find it helpful to talk to a therapist. Therapy in the times of Corona looks quite different to the traditional therapy you may be used to, but its still valuable in the healing process.
Take some time off
While it may be tempting to power through and continue with life as usual, thats not the healthiest coping mechanism, as all youre really doing is avoiding your grief. You need time to sit with your feelings. If at all possible, you need to take some time off of work. Depending on the situation, you may be able to take family responsibility or compassionate leave. If not, try to take normal leave. If you dont, you may never face your feelings.
Allow yourself to grieve
Many people try to avoid the grief period entirely. Thats understandable its not a fun time at all. However, its the only way you can truly start to heal. Theres no shame in grieving, and grief doesnt look any certain way, so dont pressure yourself if someone else moves on before you do. You should also grieve in whatever way works for you. Some people may need to surround themselves with lots of loved ones, while others may need some time alone. You may need some time to hide under your covers and listen to sad songs and thats completely okay! You need to do what works for you when dealing with the five stages of grief.